Perhaps the surprising thing isn’t that we sometimes struggle.

We’re trying to meet our needs, navigate relationships, make sense of the past, anticipate the future, manage uncertainty and deal with whatever life happens to throw at us…

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We feel safe enough, connected enough and free enough. We have people to love, things that matter and space to be ourselves.

We can think, feel, imagine, learn and adapt. Stretch when life asks more of us and settle when it’s time to rest.

Not everything is perfect.

But we have what we need to meet life as it comes.

When life works.

But life happens…

Things change. People leave. Relationships strain. Work overwhelms. We lose things, get hurt, make mistakes, face things we never saw coming and go far too long without enough of what we need.

So we adapt: We worry - Avoid - Overthink - Push harder - Shut down - Keep busy - Try to stay in control.

The things that helped us cope can become the things that keep us stuck.

No wonder

It shows up in all sorts of ways.

Anxiety. Sleepless nights. A short fuse. A loss of confidence. Feeling flat, frightened, overwhelmed or stuck.

Sometimes there’s an obvious reason. Sometimes it’s harder to put your finger on.

Whatever’s going on, we’ll start there:

Hi, I’m Vanessa.

I’ve always been interested in how life works. I’ve studied many modalities and was inevitably drawn to Human Givens as a modern, effective, practical, evidence-based framework for making sense of what’s happening and doing something to do about it.

Together we’ll make sense of what’s happening for you and then use that understanding to work on patterns that keeps repeating, settle emotional responses that’ve become too sensitive, change the way you’re thinking about things, build confidence, solve practical problems, or find a better ways to meet your needs.

Let’s start here.

You’ve probably thought about it enough. Let’s see what changes when we do something with it.

One Hour Session
from £55.00

An hour to make sense of what’s happening and do something useful with what we find.

Sessions are 60 minutes, online or in person in Kings Langley, Hertfordshire.

If we haven’t met before, we’ll begin with a free Discovery Call to get acquainted and hear a little about what brings you here. From there, we’ll arrange your first session and take it one session at a time.

  • I had some sessions with Vanessa where we tackled the tricky relationships I have with some family members. She has given me some tools to use and helped me feel more calm inside when I have to interact with them which means I can mindfully choose how to respond rather than letting my emotions get in the way. I’m very grateful to feel so serene around these issues now.

    Nanny

  • I can't recommend Vanessa highly enough. From the very first session, she made me feel comfortable, listened to, and genuinely understood. Her solution-focused Human Givens approach has been incredibly effective, helping me make positive changes without dwelling on the past. I always leave our sessions feeling lighter, more hopeful, and better equipped to handle life's challenges. I'm so grateful for her support and would wholeheartedly recommend her to anyone looking for a compassionate and highly skilled counsellor.

    Nicola

  • Vanessa’s help has been specific, insightful, supportive and timely. It has made a huge difference to me to have this kind of support with something I was struggling with.

    Justine

  • I brought my 17 year old daughter to Vanessa to help her with her anxiety that was affecting her home life, friendships and school life. After a few months of seeing Vanessa, she was able to vocalise her feelings, process her thoughts better and gave her the strength to approach situations that she would usually avoid. Not only did it help her with her anxiety but it gave her essential tools to deal with issues and challenges that she faces every day. I cannot thank Vanessa enough for her support kindness and guidance in this.

    Chrissie

Not quite ready?

Get in touch and let’s go from there:

No Wonder.